You know what I'm really grateful for as a 23 year old Muslim?
...that I have never been in an intimate relationship for as long
as I have lived. I'm talking about the love that goes beyond the platonic
relationship we have with friends and family. The sad thing is, we grew up in a
society where falling in love is considered to be the best thing since
water (yes, I know I'm generalizing, but hush hush. I'm trying to make a
point). To find the other half of our soul is a noble goal that everyone
has on their bucket list. I think for Muslims, this can be a bit more
difficult than normal. While most of our peers are going in and out of
relationship year after year, we're stuck being single praying that we wouldn't
have to do anything forbidden or risky. I don't blame Muslims for getting
married early or "settling down" early. You do you. It's damn hard
trying to live up to what the world finds to be peaches and cream.
On another note, why do we long for another soul to understand us? Why do we yearn
to find a person who would be constant in our life in a world that changes
daily? I don't know the answer to my questions. I could wrap my brain around it
and find an answer that I would be satisfied with, but I just don't want to do
that at this moment in time. Living in such ambivalence is difficult. But you
know what? I'm glad I was never in relationship as a teenager. Puberty was hell
for me, adding a relationship to that fire would have increased that insecurity
more than what the hormones were doing. I'm glad I was able to think about my
future. I was able to dream. I was able to ponder about things that went beyond
"love". We have eternity to find our other half, but let's not waste
our time being miserable contemplating why that person is not in our life at
this moment in time. Maybe, that ,in itself can be the reason I don’t date and
am not interested in it.
My hand reaches to the sky hoping that you're doing the same thing
wherever you are.~
(P.S. Yes, I am aware that there are Muslims who date and have relationships
outside of marriage. Blah blah blah)
